Saturday, March 20, 2021
Sunday, January 03, 2021
Abusers can be devastatingly charming, absolutely convincing, and they are master manipulators. Although abusers can change, they rarely do. They can sweep you off your feet, FAST, and it’s absolutely not worth taking the chance.
Saturday, January 02, 2021
Three women EVERY day, DIE from domestic abuse & violence.
Who is willing to take some time--right now--to become informed enough to make a difference?
Due to an awesome interviewer, I believe my interview with "Off The Shelf Books" ranks among the best I've ever done in terms of being able to get life-changing and even life-saving information to those who are experiencing abuse and to those they are most likely to turn to for help.
- What are signs of abuse?
- Someone I love is experiencing abuse. What can I do?
- Why abuse happens in Christian homes
- What advice would you give to victims?
- What set you free?
- How to plan for your own preservation
- When you should Not tell an abuser your plans
- How did you get out?
- What can we do to help others experiencing abuse?
- Much MUCH More!
Listen (and bear with the slow intro. It's an exciting and informative interview that takes off well afterwards!
Saturday, October 31, 2020
Abuse is not a relationship problem, and couples counseling will not stop it. When the problem is abuse, it does not take "two to tango." Abuse is the abuser's problem, and if abuse is going stop in a relationship, the abuser needs to take steps to stop it.
Unfortunately, many pastors and Christian counselors still treat abuse as a couples problem, inadvertently increasing the risk of injury or death to victims.
Giving the book, Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence, as gifts, helps us become part of the solution rather than the problem.
Abuse is so misunderstood! Give this book as a gift to anyone experiencing abuse. And give a copy to those they are most likely to turn to for help: Family, Friends, Pastor, Sunday School Teacher...."
Give a copy to local DV shelters and law enforcement. When they understand the issue of domestic violence among Christians better, they are far more likely to help victims, rather than write them off as not-credible. Sadly, out of ignorance, many police officers do this.
Sunday, October 04, 2020
Friday, September 04, 2020
September is self-care month. A question was asked in an advocacy group about what I would include in a self-care package to an abused woman. One of our members said she would include a flower, because she so seldom received any during her years of abuse. I thought that was lovely. I added to the flower, that I would also include some helpful literature or book. It was a free book offered on television that served as one of the catalysts that set me on my journey to freedom from abuse. I have since written a book describing my own journey out, and hopefully that will serve as a map to help other women in navigating their way out of the minefield that is an abusive marriage (don't forget that next month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. My book would be an excellent gift for an abused woman or anyone she might turn to for help, i.e., family, friend, pastor....).
What else would you include in the package? Tell us in the comments below.
Monday, July 13, 2020
I know what it feels like to be abused and be more afraid of the reaction I might get from those I would ask for help than I was of the abuser.
"Abused Christian women are more likely to remain in or return to unsafe relationships, citing religious beliefs to support avoidance of ‘family break-ups’ despite abuse." But what if a woman is killed by her abusive husband? Wouldn't that break up a family?
- Do not discriminate against victims by shaming them for their choices of who they married or whether they choose to stay or not to stay in their abusive situation.
- Do not discriminate by making your help conditional on promises to "never to go back."
- Do realize that economics may play a part in a victim's decision on whether or not to report the abuse or leave, especially if the victim is a stay-at-home-mom with no income of her own.
- Know what resources in your area are available to her.
- If possible, render tangible aid to her and her family.
- Know that she will experience sometimes overwhelming fear.